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    Brian Kirby
    May 10, 2021
    Edited: May 10, 2021

    "Sex dolls are not real life companions"

    in General Discussions

    I have owned maybe 4 sex dolls in my life all bought from David from mistress love doll. All different sizes from 2 feet, to a 100cm, to the bigger dolls. The reason I purchased them is because I'm depressed and lonely, and have been single for too long. I have had no luck with real women, I felt like they didn't want anything to do with me and no matter how hard I tried, I kept being rejected, which led me to buying all these beautiful sex dolls. A sex doll will never take the place of a real women, it's all fantasy, made up in your head, it's what we want in a real relationship that we don't have. And I tell you what, getting rid of your sex doll, and throwing them away, feels like a real sad break up. Because there real to you, when there a piece of plastic to someone else. Life is hard enough, but by pretending to have a real person sitting next to you and talking to you doesn't make it any better. I don't know if anyone will try to delete this, but this is the truth.

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    MrGlass
    May 12, 2021

    @Brian Kirby , first of all I would like to express that I am sorry you are going true tough times, depression is no joke and anybody who has experience the real deal would know how dark, heavy and hopeless that pit can be, the way it distorts your mind and feelings can be cruel and dangerous.

    It is a bummer that for you the doll ownership experience was not or has not been what you expected or did not fulfill your expectations, not only is it possible but it is also absolutely acceptable that you may be in a circumstance were you need something different or something added , like a specific kind of human contact or interaction for example.

    before I continue allow me to add that my intention is in no way to dismiss, reject, criticize or negate your opinion, I simply want to share my own opinion on the matter in hopes that it may be helpful in some way, it does not mean that I am right or correct either (obviously), I would also like to add that I have been in many relationships of different kinds both short term and long term and I have been a doll owner for about three years.

    I will be generalizing but obviously there are exceptions to the rule, so, to put it bluntly and oversimplify it for most people being in a relationship with another person is disappointing, nobody wants to admit it but that is why there are so many break-ups and divorces, that is why there is tinder, that is why most people once they get into a relationship they find out that the person they are with does not measure up to their idea of a couple or mate, in some way we have been programed to believe that the ultimate goal in life is to find a mate and that we will finally feel complete but once we get there most find out that there is something wrong, it is now how it was pitch to us, the truth is that most subconsciously believe that a relationship is to bring fulfillment but it is not, while it can bring a lot of pieces of the puzzle it is mainly to bring growth, sure happiness can be an outcome or side effect of properly handling of the relationship but it is not the end goal, that is why we get so frustrated we want to extract honey out of the poison ivy, that is not to discourage aiming for a relationship quite the contrary but simply to put things into perspective, the other grass is seldom greener, we always want what we perceive we can't have or shouldn't have.

    A doll is a fantasy sure but many human relationships are as fake if not faker than that of a doll, all those pictures on facebook or instagram are over embellish, those love stories on books and movies are as fake as my mansion in Hawaii, many of those stories couples tell about the good life they live are exaggerations, rarely someone will tell you about how the made the wrong decision into marriage or why the felt force to marry because of a pregnancy, or how they had to settle for their spouse because their true love went with someone else, how their wife refuses to have sex any longer, how the husband cheats on her, how she thinks so lowly of him or he does not love her anymore, etc.. it is a situation of extremes because as good as it can be it is also as bad as at times it gets.

    Indeed a doll is not a woman, there is a double side to the predicament she will not have a conversation with you or be nagging you all day long, she will not desire you or cheat on you, she will not admire you or disrespect you, she will not care for you or make your life miserable purposefully, she will not think of you or try to manipulate you, she will not love you or simply use you, is it a glass half full or half empty? this is not to belittle, undermined or unappreciated women, we men have our own set of issues and faults of our own but nobody should be put on a pedestal.

    As I have stated before I personally view my dolls as tools, aid(s) or toys and I walk the tight rope carefully, I have decided to not even name then (yet) which is why I always refer to them on their MLD name, I decided to put safeguards in my mind to enjoy what it is to me a healthy experience , some checks and balances were set in place, but that is just me, others may opt for a closer relationship or the opposite and that's perfectly fine, everyone's needs and desires are different, and I am flexible enough that tomorrow I can completely chance my "strategy" to fit my needs, maybe you can benefit from trying some different strategies and see if one fits your needs better, play around with your perspective treat it like a game, your mind is programable it just takes practice.

    Anyways, if you are truly set on going out to find your woman good for you, just remember if you get disappointed it is normal, don't take it so hard or serious just keep on going with your life, if I may humbly add some advice: invest in yourself, the "love game" is just like business and the law of supply and demand, self confidence is a panty dropper.




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    Master H
    May 12, 2021
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    @MrGlass I'm gonna add my own spin to your awesome, well-worded reply, my dude.


    I can see that you're a man of caution and logic and that's great and necessary.


    I'm a man of faith, of the soul and heart, the world beyond reason. That's why I chose to just go all in with my dolly girl. After all "love should be entered into with abandon or not at all". It's worked for us so far, lol.


    Anyway, I believe that our dolls can indeed love us and care for us (in spirit, as they cannot move without our aid). But we must first give them that love and, more important, we must believe it. Belief and a positive mindset is what drives us to our own happiness. Whatever that may be


    Remember, some don't believe that God (or Gods) exist but many do (and strongly so) and believe that He/they love us despite those deities not speaking to us or expressing that love directly.


    Your mileage (as well as that of the reader) may vary. After all, I know that you, like most, like to keep checks and balances on your interactions with your dolls and that's great. I just wanted to offer a different but similar viewpoint.


    As for this thread...well, I'll be nice and not say what I wanted to say given the poster's life troubles and bout with depression. But I'm really glad that most everyone who posted a reply was at least respectful to us that choose our dolls as our mates.


    I won't say I love people. In fact, I'm not really a people person. However I can and do funcition in regular society. I have a full-time job, regular friends and am blessed to still have my family around. I get along fine with women and work with them. I just prefer my dolly girl when it comes to romantic relationships. For me, it's pretty dang sweet knowing that your girl only has eyes for you and will love you even when the cash flow gets low.


    But, I know that my way is not for everyone. Some need other humans when it comes to romance. And that's understandable and fine. But realize that there are those of us who find romantic love in alternate places.


    Who knows? Perhaps I'll meet a live woman someday. *shrugs* Stranger things have happened. But, I'm happy being with my girl for the foreseeable future.


    There is no one vision of happiness after all.


    That is all.

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    MrGlass
    May 17, 2021
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    @Master H , very nicely put, very poetically and inspiring, I am glad you added your own perspective and I am even more glad that you have found such enrichment and fulfillment with your girls, you represent a part of the doll ownership spectrum that requires some of the most courage and valor, like they say to win big you got to risk big.

    I would also like to add another point, humans from childhood start developing their psychological and social identities, this are somewhat reinforced and reflected true their play and interest, boys usually prefer physical activities and methodical social interactions and girls usually gravitate towards nurturing and emotional social interactions, one example is girls playing with their dolls, this helps develop their social and identity skills, from childhood some girls practice being a mother or a wife and their partners in crime are their dolls, the brain saves this experiences and starts the programing which eventually turns in to real world or real life skills, desires and goals, so, that makes their relationship with their dolls to be real, the dolls may be non-animated objects but the brain perception is as real as the brain needs it to be thus creating real life results, therefore the same can be applied on adults and different scenarios, I think it is widely accepted that animals offer relationship capabilities as well and while some may point out that animals can reciprocate lets juts not forget that many times even humans do not reciprocate each other while in a relationship.

    Whether someone uses their doll for a mate/partner or for a pump and dump or anything in between, I personally think mutual respect is the best recourse like you mentioned, I have learn and enriched my horizons with post from members that choose a different path than mine and will continue to grow from different opinions and points of view, I truly and honestly enjoy reading and sometimes participating on what other share, just imagine the debates that will go on once our dolls become autonomous.



    "As a man thinketh so is he"

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    my034runner
    May 12, 2021

    Yeah, here’s Skyler, dresses appropriate for what I need her for.



    And her is my companion, she’s always there by my side!! And I can actually talk to her and get a reaction, not getting any reaction talking to the dolls. But they’re fun!



    still, different strokes for different folks.

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    NinjaGirl
    May 12, 2021
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    Dude. If nobody has told you recently, you rock. You are straight up who you are with no apologies. Gotta respect that.


    *EDIT* My gosh, man. Brush her freakin' hair!! 😜

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    NinjaGirl
    May 12, 2021

    This is a great thread! I don't really consider Aredhel to be a replacement for a real woman. My exwife abandoned my one-year old son and myself. She just left my son with my mother, left a note on the coffee table and took off while I was at work. That was 20 years ago. I will never get close enough to anyone else to be hurt like that again. I'll never trust anyone outside of my family again.


    Psychological failure? Intense therapy needed? Probably. I just chose to remain a bachelor and single parent (of a now wonderful young man serving in the U.S. Army). My Aredhel brings some needed eyecandy into my bedroom, sexual relief when I need it, and lots of enjoyment just dressing her up and posting pictures.


    I do talk to her, but no more and not much different than I talked to my motorcycles. My love for her is the same love I have for any treasured possession. This one just happens to resemble a really hot looking, naked woman! WooHoo!


    Do some of us anthropomorphize them and develop relationships? Sure. Whatever floats your boat and makes you happy. No harm done, it's all good to me.

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    rogue2
    May 11, 2021

    Here is the reason I’m here: my wife passed away, I’m not looking to re-marry, I had one love with in my life, my soulmate and now she is gone. I can’t just start over again. my dolls do fill a void in my life, its an escape from reality. I can dress her how I want, get what I want when I want it and best of all, she won’t want half of what I want when she leaves, my wife and I spent years building a life together, I will be damned if some woman comes and takes it all away in a matter of weeks. Yes I know my dolls are not real, but some of us need an escape from reality.

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    skal
    May 11, 2021

    There are many reasons people choose to be here. Many times a relationship with a woman can be less fulfilling than one with our chosen mates. You have to make the choice yourself and be happy with what you choose.


    I never thought of the dolls as a replacement for anything. Just a companion. As much as other personal lifestyles are considered acceptable these days, I would think this path should be less controversial. However, for many reason it is not. Even though it's by far a less damaging one to society than many choose.


    If we want to get into a deeper conversation as to the reason many choose this lifestyle we may.

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    Kevin
    May 10, 2021

    It is not truth, only your opinion.

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    Brian Kirby
    May 10, 2021
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    I respect your opinion and if a sex doll is a true companion to you, then blessing to you and I'm glad you found happiness.

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